Why Children Hate their father
Letter To Men
Men are perceived like evil, in the mind of the children. I realize that men are supposed to reason in punishing their children, but because our mother's use emotional blackmail on them. They usually fall on those tricks. And it makes their children don't connect with them (men), the children only connect with their mother only. And abandon their father. All these things don't come into reality when the children are still young, it is when they become adults.
As a man when children don't connect with you emotionally especially the ones that are not yours you need to be extra careful, all this your kids will not be around you forever, Even before anything happens within you and you quickly need help it is the children that are not yours that will still stand in for your children. Because your children might be in another country or state with their respective families, even before your children come around or get the news of you needing help, the children who are not yours have filled that gap.
Children and adults should learn to forgive their fathers, Uncle and brothers who have made their childhood a trauma just because they had a wife who just came into the picture. I am a product of that child of trauma. I have one uncle who was always nice when he was still single, and the wife was very nice whenever she comes for weekend visits, but the day he got married to her things change, we saw my uncle as a wicked man and we see the wife as an angel.
Even in some family the man will be very nice and the woman will put up character making their home uncomfortable for visitors especially the ones from are husband's house. You see situations like this it all falls in the man's shoulder, if you can't be diplomatic in all you do as a man your wife will either be manipulative and pretend, or be manipulative without pretending it all falls to the atmosphere you create to the woman that make them act like that, No wonder you will see some mothers and call them witch and you will see some and call them angels. All these things are nothing to me because I am seeing it from the psychological aspect of life. Some people just don't know how to manage their personalities. That's why we call them witch, wicked and all sorts of name, behind them. You need extra guts to call these people wicked. If you look at it properly, we all have people like this in our family, either male or female, as wicked as they her, life seems to favor them than the nice ones in the family. That's a story for another day.
As a Man try not to be manipulated by your wife's it tells on the relationship, you have on your kids, haven't you noticed that whenever you are around those children are not happy you are around, they wish you go and never come back, if God should answer the prayer of some kids 80% of children will be fatherless but God is merciful, some will say thank God he is not a man.
There is a difference between punishing a child for doing what was wrong and pushing him for doing what you don't like. I realize that most parents punish their children for doing what they don't like, not for wrongdoing. At the end it is the father that takes the hatred. That is why whenever all these children are being reported to you, make sure you think deeply before punishing them, before all these children will end up realizing that you're are not smart. Because they have friends in school who they talk too, some things you punish them for their friends are being rewarded at home. Parents should be flexible in punishing their children.
I could remember when I was younger, every time my uncle will always punish me for going into the Internet to do research. All I know is he was trying to say I will always go to the internet to watch pornography, not that he knows about the Internet. at least he would have seen my browsing history. To justify his assumptions but never he will never do that, I never listened to him because my neighbor wishes to have a son like me who had an interest in the internet. Because I used to share information whenever they engage me in discussions when they ask me how do I get information like this I tell them from the internet, the man will always gift me money for what I did, you can see what am saying what I am been punish for at home another family his rewarding me for it. Part of what I am today was what I was making research on when I was younger.
Wrong upbringing makes parents act the way they do, and lack of exposure make parents treat their children badly and the talent of the child is destroyed, because your style of bringing up children is destiny killing, acquiring knowledge from other parents, traveling and reading books will solve all these things.
Well I will say the African style of bringing up children needs a serious touch. I can still say it is demonic because it separates the love of the children from the father and sends it to their mother.
When a thing is one-sided, someone will suffer from it, which is the man, please men, in thy deals, get knowledge.